See, I Told You So

Today I wanted to think about the Self Destruct button we all have inside.

We tell ourselves regularly we have no money, we have a history, and years of evidence, of having no money; having no money is entrenched in our subconscious.

So, when we DO finally get some money, say from inheritance, or a savings plan maturing, or winnings, or a gift, what’s the Very First thing we do with it? Why, spend it, of course.

So, a week later, we have no money again, and our mind says: Whew, that was close, we don’t have any money remember. Now the balance of nature is restored, and we can once again say with confidence: See told you so, I don’t have any money.

Some of us have a history of failed relationships. “It never works for me”, we tell ourselves over and over again, “I can never find anyone nice”, we say.

One day, someone amazing walks into our lives, and simply loves us. Oh my goodness, what a shock! This doesn't happen to me! Quick, lets end this! We must find a way to sabotage this wonderful thing that is happening to us! What can I say to get rid of them? What argument can I start? Whew, they've gone, and balance is restored again. Told you so, I’m rubbish with relationships. Why does this always happen to me….

I watch people public speaking. They keep reiterating how bad they are at public speaking. Their body hears them and prepares for failure each time. When it’s their turn to speak, they don’t plan or prepare, they don’t practice, they don’t visualise, they don’t write anything down, they stand in the wrong place, thereby ENSURING they fail once again, reinforcing the notion, concreting the belief. They sabotage themselves so they can be proved Right: “See, I told you I couldn't public speak”.

So, I choose to change my language and my thoughts, stop reinforcing the negative and stop sabotaging myself.