Catch Yourself Doing Something Good

So much of what we cover in these blogs centres around loving yourself FIRST.

Accepting yourself first. Respecting yourself first. Looking after yourself first.

Only then can we extend that love to others outside of us.

But how on earth do we do this?

How do we even begin to LIKE ourselves, let alone love and accept.

It’s a vicious cycle: I have been rubbish, I see myself as rubbish, I believe I am rubbish, therefore I AM rubbish.

How can we break out of this?

Well, one way, is to catch yourself doing something right.

Begin accumulating fresh evidence, good evidence, the kind you are proud of.

It can be as simple as resisting that extra mouthful.

Finishing that piece of homework we thought we couldn't do.

Holding open the door for someone.

Tidy after myself.

Going for that jog round the block we've always intended to do.

Hold back from snapping at members of our family.

Conquer that guitar lick I couldn't do yesterday.

Whatever it is, for each person, take that one small step, and catch yourself doing something right. Praise yourself, congratulate yourself. Tell yourself you are improving, begin to be proud of your progress.

(Self talk is massively important).

Gradually (and it took years for me), I began to be able to look in the mirror again. One day, after several years of acquiring numerous small pieces of evidence that proved I wasn't rubbish any more, I looked in the mirror and declared: “Well done Serge, I’m proud of you. You've done a really good job. Thank you”.