What Do You Really Want?

I want, I want, I want.  Sounds so selfish and self absorbent doesn't it.
Why is it always about what I want, me me me?
I'll tell you why - it's because if I don't know where I am heading, I will certainly never get there.
If I have no vision, no goal, intention or aim, I will most probably meander round in circles, exhausting myself, repeating the same mistakes, going over old ground continually. Sounds like some peoples' lives, yes?
Earl Nightingale once said (paraphrased): However big and powerful a ship's engine is, however determined the crew, if you simply turn it on but give it no captain and no destination, it will certainly crash, whether into the shore, or the docks, or the harbour wall. The bible says, without vision the people perish.
If I write down what I want to see in my life, what I want to achieve, then, if an opportunity presents itself that may sound good, but is dragging me away from my goal, then I must surely say no to such an opportunity.
If I write down what I want in a life partner, and I keep that list before me, then I won't be tempted to settle for third or fourth best. I must start valuing myself more; if I know someone will not make me happy, then why even start down that path?  I refuse to be desperate.
Certainly don't go for outward appearance alone.
Make a list of what I really really want. Compare it with what I've got in front of me, whether person or situation. How do the two match up?
Please don't settle for something temporary now, knowing deep down that it will turn sour in a years time.
So many relationships end like this.
Respect and value myself more - write down what I want.
Then I will recognise it when it comes.