I Don't Feel Well

I Don't Feel Well.

How many times have we heard this?  I hear it a lot from children.

Is it an excuse?  Sometimes.

Is it licence to act badly? To say cruel, hurtful things and get away with it?

Do your feelings give you the right, to make everyone's life around you a misery?

Or is it US, that have given you permission over us; to affect us.

Perhaps we shouldn't be tolerating your behaviour, we should be mirroring it back to you.

It is of course acceptable to "not feel well". There are unavoidable situations we are all susceptible to, like poisoned food, flu and other air-borne viruses that lower our defence system etc.  As well as the mental stress that comes from a trauma.

But at which point does "I Don't Feel Well" become an excuse?

Perhaps, when it is Self Inflicted.

If I stay up late, I feel drained the next day.

If I eat junk (sweets, sugars, processed), I operate on half power, sometimes for two days later.

If I am critical, complaining, gossipy, negative, I will attract (and spread) more misery into my life.

If I lie, then I will probably get caught out, and be exposed and embarrassed.

If I don't give out love and acceptance, then I won't receive any.

Simple cause and effect.

In this respect, my so-called bad feelings are self inflicted. A direct result of my actions, thoughts and words.

There are things I can do if I am genuinely "Not Well".

I need to take ownership of my State, and do something to remedy it.

Start off with being gentle with myself, administer some TLC and love the badness out of my body.

Say I have a headache, I will:

Drink lots  (dehydration causes a lot of headaches)

Get some wind in my face

Lie down in a quiet dark place

Have a shower.  The flowing water massages the scalp.

Massage my brow, my scalp, my sinuses, the back of my neck.

Avoid junk going into my mouth! Fruit and veg - good clean food may clear my mind.

Forgive everyone, release everyone from judgement, no grudges, calm my mind.

I may even cancel public appointments until I can represent myself better.

What I will resist doing with all my strength, is taking out my internal feelings on the people closest to me. Drag everyone around me down by being naggy, sharp, rude, insensitive. Modify my emotions.

Only if I extend love, care and acceptance to myself first, can I do so to others.

If I don't "feel well", I will try and find the CAUSE, and heal myself. If I can.

Finally, some linguistics.

Rather than say: "I DON'T Feel Well",  identify what DO I feel?  How do I feel?

Muggy? Dizzy? Irritable? Weak? Anxious? Angry? Slow? Thirsty? Frustrated? Hot? Ratty?

Let's be specific folks.

What does "WELL" feel like? Clarity of thinking? Ability to make quick decisions? Bouncing up the stairs? Good humoured? Patient? Kind? Probably all of the above and much more.

So, I won't be using "I Don't Feel Well" as an excuse if it is self inflicted. I will love myself better.