Marriage 2

Why do we marry?

Do we marry, because we are reaching 30,
and feel embarrassed about being single?

Do we marry because it’s the ‘done thing’ socially?

Are we pushed into marriage by our families, parents and friends?

How can we possibly make the right decision

when in this pressured frame of mind?

Do we rush into marriage because we are desperate?

Ladies ask: “Will this man be a good father for my children? No…., but I’m desperate, so I’ll take the risk. Maybe I can change him”.

Oh my goodness, how risky is this attitude!

Men ask: “Do I really like this person? Could I really live with this person? Perhaps I can cope with the personality if I can get sex”.

Another dangerous attitude!

What if your partner doesn’t like being physical  with you.

We marry someone because they are the life and soul of the party, then find they are grumpy at home.

We marry someone because we feel sorry for them, and want to look after them and heal them. Then we find they get healed and don’t need us anymore, and our paths separate.

We marry someone because we have a romantic ideal of walking hand in hand along the waters edge, only to find our partner hates the sea, burns in the sun and can’t stand sand.

Men marry a girl because of her lovely long hair,

only to find she cuts it off after the wedding.

Ladies marry a fit muscular man,
only to find he grows a belly after the wedding.

It’s dangerous to marry someone because of what WE WANT,

or what we can get out of this.

Surely, we should align ourselves with someone  for who THEY ARE.

We should ADD to them, and they should ADD to us.

We should release them, and they should release us.

We should accept them as they are, and not try to change them.

I read a book once called "Love is a choice". Sure, it may start off as infatuation in our 20's, but that's natures way of giving us chance to get to know someone, so we learn to love them for who they REALLY are, inside.

As we hit our 50's, and our appearance changes,
who we are as a Person is more valuable and significant,
than our appearance outside  (though a healthy self-love will prompt us to stay as healthy as we can).
Let's see through the external, and look deep inside a person.
Only then can we truly know them