Paradigm

What is a habit?
Why is it so important to break bad habits?
Why is it so necessary to form new habits?

Let’s say I open my bedroom curtains in the morning,
and declare:  “What a miserable day”.
Complaint number 1.

Then I walk downstairs moaning: “It’s flippin freezing”.
Complaint number 2.

I look in my fridge, and curse at the lack of milk/butter/bread.
Complaint number 3.

When I drive to work, I get angry at the bad drivers.

Complaint number 4.

Can you see how complaining becomes a habit?

And multiple complaining becomes a way of life, a paradigm.

We become used to looking for the bad in situations and people.

We expect bad things to happen to us.  And indeed they do. Bad situations are attracted to us; our minds attract them into our experience.

All because of years of combined complaints and moans, called our Paradigm.

So, how to break or change a paradigm? Well, it’s not that easy. You have spent years building this monolith, it has now become a way of life, a habit, it won’t tear down just like that. I find it often has to be nibbled at over time, replacing every complaint or objection, with gratitude, thanksgiving and acceptance, one by one, as they occur.

Actually, my first success was in admitting I was truly trapped, in a way of thinking and living that was so entrenched, I simply couldn’t get out of on my own.

Sounds like hard work? The result is fabulous! However long it takes, breaking a life-long paradigm is a momentous endeavour, and well worth a celebration at the end!

Try it!