The Race

We are all in a race, yes every single human being.

But we are NOT racing against each other.

Every person on the planet is in their OWN lane, on their OWN track, travelling their OWN path, running their OWN race.

The race is called Life, and it is a different track for every person, with a different destination for each person.

There are people close to me, who run alongside me. But they are in their own lane, and I in mine. They are not running my race, neither am I running theirs.

Though our paths are different, I do recognise some of the pitfalls and obstacles they encounter, because I have been through something similar. I long to help my neighbour, warn them about what’s ahead, maybe make a helpful suggestion or recommend an approach. But that is ALL I can do: recommend, suggest, advise, care, and that, only when it is ASKED for and welcomed (back to the judging issue).

So, all I can do is smile, encourage, lend a hand, sit with them if necessary. But not for long, lest I loose my own race….

My influence stretches for some lanes, but I can’t help everyone in the whole world. No, I release myself from that burden.

In fact, I am not responsible for anyone else’s path, just my own. By the same token, I cannot blame anyone else for my path, they are not responsible for me. If they were, then I’d have no power. Instead, I take responsibility for my own path, thereby taking BACK my power. Awesome!

The only time we are responsible for someone else’s path, is for our children, and then, only when they are very young – a brief 10 years say?  Then we have to let them go for the rest of their lives, and assist them only when/if they come back for help.

Same with marriage – two people with THEIR OWN paths, get together to help each other along THEIR OWN journey. My deepest joy is to see my partner excel in their destiny, to see them fulfilled, to facilitate them, to make it easy for them to reach their goal in life. I used to think, marriage was two people running the same race together. One divorce later, I realise I was wrong. There is no room in one lane for two people. I do not own another person, neither can I make another person  do  anything. They are responsible for themselves and their own race.

Each person is a universe – more on that tomorrow…