The Need To Know

Yesterday, I was a guest on a radio show, and somebody looked at me in a ‘funny way’.
I went away dejected, plagued by that face, wondering what it meant. What a waste of my energy!
Perhaps they were just sitting badly? Perhaps I had just interrupted their conversation? Perhaps they needed to go to the loo? Perhaps they were tired?  Perhaps it was just the way their face hung?
Perhaps, Perhaps, Perhaps.

I could pontificate for ever, but what good will it do me? None whatsoever. I will loose my peace, and it will tie me up in knots.

So I let it go.

Why do I have this desperate desire to KNOW why somebody else did this or said that? What has it got to do with me anyway? Why do I feel this pain? Is it self inflicted? In this case, I believe so, yes.

I read something on facebook the other day, about when relationships break down, and somebody dumps us, and offers no reason or explanation. And we have to know WHY.

-  Some of us are plagued by the injustice,

-  Some of us are overwhelmed by hurt, pain and revenge, and

-  Some of us obsess over what we did wrong and how we can improve next time.

None of these responses are helpful or productive to us.

This idea of: “I release myself from the need to know”, is something I am working on. I am beginning to realise that other people live in their own bubble or universe (see yesterdays blog), and have their own inner problems and challenges, and it may actually be less to do with me than I thought, and more to do with them.

Somebody runs their home in a certain way, we need to know why.
Somebody dresses in a certain way, we have to know why.
Somebody drives and parks in a certain way, we want to know why.
Why did they say that?

Why did they do that?

Why did they choose that option?
What were they thinking?

Tell me tell me!
These questions run like a scratched record continually in our minds, giving us no rest.

But I ask you:  WHY DO YOU NEED TO KNOW.

Their decisions are their own. Their words are their own. Their actions are their own.
They are responsible for their own life, you are responsible for yours. Let it go!
Free yourself.  Stop asking the questions.
Determine they are not important or relevant.