A New Relationship

I come home late after a long day at work.

Take my shoes and coat off,

Go upstairs, take my work clothes off put on something comfortable,

Go into the kitchen, grab a drink and a snack,

Flop in front of the computer to answer the days emails,

Maybe do some marketing on facebook,

Prepare for the next day,

Then sit down to watch or read something to unwind before bed.

Sounds familiar?  Yes.  It's what we all do.

Sounds normal?   Yes.

Is it acceptable?   Well, it was when I was a single man.

But now, I am in a committed relationship.

I have someone else in my life and home I want to consider.

Want to consider, yes.  Need to consider?  Also yes.

There are certain (very welcome) requirements when in a relationship.

My Lady is now the most important person in my life.

She comes first before anyone or anything else.

I consider her first, before emails, before social media, before my phone, before the TV, before spending.

When I come in to the house, it's her I call for.

It's her I rush to greet first.

It's her I want to reconnect with, before I do all the other ME things. If I do all the ME things, and leave her till last, what message does that send?

Now, it's very important to be me.

It is necessary to Exist.

It is vital to be authentic.

I am a person, I have rights.

However,  what we are talking about here, is redressing the balance. The balance between doing MY thing, on my own, and doing OUR thing. Together.

We are a team now.  We go through things together, hand in hand.

Yes of course, I could carry on doing all the things I used to do when I was single, but I would probably find myself single again soon!

No, I value our relationship higher than any possession or leisure activity now.

I'd rather have her, than the house or the holiday. A house with her is a home. A holiday without her is just a solitary day out.

So, I allow my love to pour out to her.

It's not a skill to be learned, or a habit to be forced. It is simply my natural and genuine love for her, being expressed in every way possible, at every moment possible.

When I see her in the street, I beam at her.

I always leave her with a smile, some kind words and a kiss on her lips.

When I go to work in the morning, the last words that caress her ears are "I Love You".

When I pass her, I stroke her, I touch her, I caress her.

When she changes outfit, I tell her how lovely she looks.

I call her gorgeous and beautiful and other affectionate names.

When she cooks for me, I am full of gratitude to her.

When she walks downstairs, I mindfully walk in front of her.

When she approaches the car, I always open her door first and make sure she is in safely.

These actions aren't learned; they flow out of a natural desire to be with someone, to honour someone, to love and respect them, to make her feel appreciated and LOVED.

The more I love me,  is the more I can love her.

The more I love her, is the more she chooses to love me back.

Perfect relationship!