Observation without Judgement

Today I drove behind someone who was behaving most erratically.

Breaking unnecessarily,

slowing down and speeding up at random times,

weaving around the road,

taking wrong lines around corners.

I am pleased to say I made these observations

Without attaching judgement to them.

Without allocating bad feelings.

Without swearing at the person driving.

Without stooping to calling them names.

Without trying to get revenge.

Without losing my cool, my peace.

Without entering into their drama.

I simply released them to be them,

and made sure I stayed away from them.

This action of observing only, and refraining from making a judgement on a person or situation is so FREEING. I can let people go. They have no hold over me.

I can merrily walk down the street, seeing people dressed different to me, making an interesting observation, but not taking that second negative step to think 'what a dreadful outfit', or 'that's shabby' or 'that doesn't go with that' or a myriad of other hurtful thoughts that flash through our minds, but we hopefully dismiss them immediately.

I can see how a parent treats their child, and observe only, then walk on by. How dare I stoop to that second evil level, where (inside me) I call them 'incompetent' or 'insensitive' or 'bad'.

In fact, the one good thing I can do,

as in the example of the driver above,

is extend understanding and empathy.

Perhaps they have just received some devastating news, and are in tears? Perhaps they just dropped the cigarette lighter onto their laps? Who knows - it's none of my business anyway. My job is to stay free within myself, send them love, and get away from them as soon as possible!

Making the world a better place,

one step at a time,

one person at a time,

starting with me.