Old Habits Die Hard

Trying to change

a habit  or

a paradigm

a view point

a mode of thinking

a way of doing things,

or any other aspect of yourself

WITHOUT getting to the source, the cause, the origin,

is exhausting.  (And really frustrating for your partner).

It's like spilling something, mopping it up, spilling it again, then mopping it up again in an endless cycle. Best to get to the reason why the spillage happened, and prevent it occurring in the first place.

Why do I judge people? Because I judge myself.

Why do I criticise people? Because I criticise myself.

Why do I look down on people? Because I look down on myself.

Why am I harsh with other people? Because I am harsh with myself.

On the other hand,

Why do I love people? Because I love myself.

Why am I accepting of other people? Because I accept myself.

Why am I patient with other people? Because I am patient with myself.

Why do I show compassion and gentleness to other people? Because I am compassionate and gentle with myself.

Here are harder habits to break:

·       Why do I interrupt my sweetheart when she speaks?
What is it inside of me that causes me to interrupt?

·       Why does my mind flit  from subject to subject?
How can I slow it down? Be more in the Now.

·       Why do I jump to conclusions?
What is it inside of me that causes me to jump to conclusions?

·       Why do I assume my sweetheart is implying something she isn't?
What causes me to make assumptions?

·       Why do I not listen when my sweetheart is speaking?
What ingrained habit causes me to not listen?

·       Why do I have these buttons inside of me that cause me to explode when they are pressed?
What caused these exploding buttons in the first place?

More importantly: What can I do about it now!