Don't Write Me Off

Today, I was struck by how long Life is,

and how many chances we get, to get things Right.

Lets assume:

Each Night is a Death, and

Each Morning is a Fresh Start.

So, if there are 365 days in each year

and we live for 100 years,

that’s 36,500 Fresh Starts!  That’s awesome!

I get 36,500 chances to get things Right,  to start again,  to try again,  to re-think my position,  to set new goals,  to amend my direction,  to re-invent myself,  to monitor my progress,  to tweak my plans.

How encouraging!

I used to know a couple, who appeared to me, to be in a rut. God forgive me, who was I to judge? But there you go, to my shame, I put this couple up in my imaginary court, set myself up as judge, and condemned them as loosers, no-hopers, dead-enders. Both had put on weight and were out of shape, wearing unfashionable clothes, he ate pies all day, grew a beard, did a job he presumably didn’t enjoy. In my stinky judgmental state, I lost respect for them, and lost contact too.

Years later, I come across the same couple, completely different story.  Both fit and healthy, cheerful and positive, young looking, cycling every day, leaders in their field, excellent parents, involved in the community, fun to be with, people I could look up to and respect, doing far better than me.

What a difference, and how absolutely wrong of me to have branded them and Written Them Off, all those years ago.

We all have a chance to re-train, to take stock. 36,500 such chances available to us, should we take them. To Write Someone Off at ANY stage in their lives, is so so so wrong. How many people re-invent themselves after retirement? After a traumatic experience. Don’t you DARE write me off, even when I hit 99 years old, I still have 365 chances left to change, improve, make a stand, heal my world.

Perhaps that’s why a Love relationship (call it marriage or covenant or whatever) was designed to be long term - So we can give each other 36,500 opportunities.

The person you fall asleep with tonight may wake up tomorrow….different, transformed, with a Light Bulb Moment, a flash of inspiration, and re-invent themselves.

Let's NEVER write each other off please.

Thanks.  Wonderful.