Respect People

People are not objects.

People are not inconveniences to ignore.

People are not furniture to walk around.

People are not hindrances to tut at.

People are not problems to solve.

People are not stones to climb over.

People are not punch-bags to vent your frustration out on.

People are not messes to clean up.

People are not bodies to tag.

People are not sacks to brush past

People are not piles of dirt to be sneered at.

People are not inferior to be looked down on.

No.  People are to be respected.

People are Human Beings, with Eternity in their hearts.

Every person, from the youngest child to the oldest grandparent, has an Eternal Soul inside of them.

Every person has limitless creativity.

Every person has priceless intuition.

Every person has dreams and ambitions, most of them unrealised.

Every person has passion and enthusiasm, joy and laughter within them.

Every person, whatever age, has something to teach me.

Every person can be an inspiration to me.

This writing was born out of what I saw in hospital, surprisingly enough.

People who are used to dealing with computer screens, become impatient when a real-life person doesn't understand them.

People who are used to fixing machines, become frustrated when a real-life person appears more complicated.

A real-life person with a hearing problem, can seem like they are being awkward.

But they are not.

A real-life person with many things on their mind, can seem like they are ignoring you.

But they are not.

A real-life person with depression, who has lost hope, may not move as fast mentally as you.

Let's bare with other people who are not on our wavelength.

I play piano for senior citizens. I see their eyes light up when they hear familiar tunes. I see their eyes sparkle when they talk about themselves. Love them all.

I teach drums to 8 year olds. I see them blossom as I encourage them, and they bloom as they realise they are getting things right and they sound good.

How important it is not to judge others. For when we judge others, we incriminate ourselves.

How important it is to extent respect and compassion to others. For when we do so, we reveal our true selves inside.

Balance

Some people say we are made up of Body, Soul and Spirit.

Others say we are made up of Emotional, Mental and Physical sides.

I've even heard a reference to "Heart, Soul and Mind".

So which is it? And what do all these references mean?

Well, I think they are all combined!

For those who can't see the image below, I will describe it in words.

I subscribe to the concept that there are FOUR sides to us; a three sided equilateral triangle, where each side must be balanced for the Spirit in us to function properly.

Side 1.

First, the Physical, the Body, the Flesh; the part of us we can experience with the five senses. This side of us relates to our health, exercise and diet. There are so many people who have money, possessions, positions, and are so-called 'successes', yet have no health to enjoy their achievements. These people have neglected their body, and end up with dis-eases caused by consuming too many sugars and processed foods, and not taking enough exercise. A well looked after body normally denotes a healthy, balanced, self-confident individual. It is not uncommon to find people who are healthy and active well over 100 years of age, partly because of their diet.

Side 2.

Then there is the Emotional side. The part of us which is sensitive and vulnerable. The Heart element of us, our feelings, Love. It is here  where our intuition operates, that mystical part of us that can pick up other people's vibrations, sense the mood in a room, see/feel the aura around someone. Our gut reaction. A hunch. Our sixth-sense.

It is also here where we harbour resentments and bitterness, again causing dis-ease, which may manifest itself in the physical ie: headaches, heartaches, neck aches, back aches, tumours, ulcers etc.

To live longer and remain healthy, forgive more, love more, release things more, spend less time with negative and complaining people, focus on positive, uplifting and inspiring things.

Side 3.

The Mental side of us. The Brain. The intellect. Our thoughts. The things we dwell on. The memories we choose to treasure or let go.

This is important to cultivate because without the Mind, the body is a shell. In many schools of thought, the Mind is considered a wild animal, which needs to be reined in, disciplined, trained, controlled.

Our mental faculties need exercising as much as our bodies. There are many people who retire at 60 odd, stop using their mind, and rapidly deteriorate into a depressed vegetable state.  No.  Keep reading. Keep learning. Keep stretching. Keep enquiring. Keep researching. Keep playing board games, doing puzzles. Join clubs and groups. Communicate with people regularly. Spend occasional time with people younger than you. Stay open minded about new ideas.  Keep young!

Side 4.

Finally, when all sides of the equilateral triangle are in balance, inside it is the Spirit. The Soul. That Eternal part of us that knows we are born for more than just work, eat and sleep. The everlasting side of us that is untouchable, yet lives on after we die.

The Spirit which unites us in purpose. The Soul which connects us at such a deep level, we cannot describe it adequately. Profound.

When the triangle is out-of-balance, the Spirit in us is quenched. You've hear the expression 'Soul-less eyes', where someone is dead inside. They have no vision of their future.

However, when our lives are in balance, our Spirit sings within us, our Soul leaps for joy, and we are at peace inside.

There is a deep sense well-being, and an Eternal sense of Purpose.

An internal knowing that we should let go of things, detach, release, free ourselves fly like the Wind, as we were meant to.

Beautiful

People are easy

What do people want?

Recognition. Praise. Approval. Encouragement. Gratitude. Acceptance. Respect. Appreciation. Love. To be heard. To be understood. To be taken seriously.

Give a person these things, and they will do without food, they will do without possessions, they will do without money.

Give a person these things, and they will be yours forever. You will have their heart, their allegiance, their trust, their loyalty, their love.

I once worked for an employer who gave me massive and regular praise, support, public recognition. An office to myself, all the resources I needed, and full licence to create solutions for the company. It was heaven to start with; I achieved so much.  For them I worked extra hours, got involved in all aspects of the business, contributed to other people's projects, set up efficient systems, invented ways of making money, saving money, providing a better service to the customers.

Unfortunately, management attitudes changed during the time I was there, and my last year there was hell.  They started  ignoring me, which was painful enough, but then stooped to criticising and insulting me. It was at that time in my life I realised I didn't work just for a pay packet. I worked for job satisfaction, for praise and appreciation, I value kind words and a friendly atmosphere more than I value money.

Working just for money is such a soul destroying activity.

That's why I say people are easy. They are easy to work out, easy to deal with. Simply give them the time, recognition, gratitude, respect and love they so desperately crave for inside, and they'll do anything for you.

So, why don't we do this?

Knowing all this about our fellow human beings,

Why do we still think that paying our employees is enough?

Why do we shout at people to make them do what we want?

Why do we punish children for doing wrong, instead of praising them when they do something right?

Why do we criticise our partner, to try and make them change?

Why do we put someone down, in a vain attempt at improving them?

I would suggest that NONE of these negative methods work, none will get the best out of our fellow human beings. These evil methods only have the effect of alienating us from our fellow employees, friends, family.

Tell an angry person they are right, empathise with them, and the situation diffuses immediately.

Thank a disgruntled cleaner on your way home at night, and you will make their day.

Say a kind word about someone, stick up for them, and they will remember this in the future when you have a problem.

Give your boss the credit for your good ideas, and they will remember you when they are dishing out the end-of-year bonuses.

Take the example of a sales person. The customer doesn't want your product - if they did they would order it on-line, at their leisure, in the comfort and silence of their own home, and get it delivered to their door. No, what the customer wants is to be respected, to feel important, valued, heard, consulted.

How do you get people to do what you want? Give them what they want!

It's so simple.

This isn't manipulating - this is Loving People!